The Second Day of Christmas

The Second day of Christmas.

I once had an on-line discussion with an atheist arguing the relative merits of atheism vs. (for me) Catholic Christianity. At  the beginning of the session, I had decided to be open-minded. So open-minded, in fact, that I told my atheist friend that if could present a compelling argument for atheism, I would become an atheist.

Sometimes I dreaded his notes. What if he was right? What if my intellect was forced to recognize that atheism presented a stronger case for itself than Christianity? As it turned out, I needn’t have worried, As a result of my interactions with him, I am a stronger Christian and Catholic.

One of the things I most appreciate about Christianity is gratitude. Gratitude is a wonderful gift. It enables me to see each day as a present to be unwrapped, and each new opportunity as an offering from a loving God. It also enables me to see that the “bad” things that come into my life are often ways that God shows me something I need to learn.

Thanksgiving is tough if there is no one to thank. I thank God for life itself. I recognize that many bad things could have happened in my life and didn’t. I also recognize that many of the things that seemed bad at the time were beautiful gifts in ugly wrapping paper.

God has a plan, but it is certainly not my plan. My plan had Marsha and me comfortably retired and hanging out on our boat, inviting our friends to adventures, and in general living the dream life. God has seen fit to show me that my dream life may not be what He has in mind. This has caused some disquiet and downright anxiety, but lately I’ve been finding some peace.

I went through this with a number of things – our initial financial struggles with jobs, kids and debts; our marriage as it turned to harsh partnership and avoidance; the need to explore my inner self as a requirement to present Marriage Encounter weekends; the wrenching realization that I believed if Marsha really knew me, that she would reject me; the fear of being out of control that I wrestled with; the move to Seattle, trying to become part of a new community; yanking ourselves out of that community when it just seemed to be going well; parenthood every which way, rejection by a boss, financial setbacks, a layoff, another move.

What I have learned is simply that if I am willing to detach myself (“let go and let God”), He will take me where I am and show me somewhere else that I can serve and learn. My life has been so much more of an adventure in part because I was willing to let God steer and me to provide pedal power.

 Yesterday was Christmas day, and we went to the Irish house (Lauren’s parents). There was a gift exchange, but Marsha and I did not participate, we are saving that for when Adam gets home, whenever that is. All the same, I felt a profound sense of peace. I was spending a lot of time with Madeleine, the almost-one granddaughter. She was investigating new sights, sounds, tastes, and touches. I had nothing more important to do at that moment than to follow her as she crawled around, keeping her from dangerous investigations.

To have nothing more important to do than simply “be” with another person, even if that person can’t talk, is an extraordinary thing.  When our kids were growing up, even when I was with them my mind was often somewhere else, stressing about something. Simply being is a wonderful thing.

I’m grateful for the gift of grandchildren, and for the opportunity to be with them with no agenda, no rush, no need to do anything but to be there. This is a blessing, and if being so blessed means I give up my “dream life”, then so be it. God always seems to have a better plan than I do. One of these days I’m going to learn to really trust Him.

a different life

Life is different now.  There has never been a time in our marriage, ever, when one or the other of us has not had a job. This is a new adventure for us, and I am watching myself to see how I handle it.

In a sense, I have a job, since I am working on Adam and Lauren’s house. All the same, there is no boss to report to, no personnel to manage, and none of the mental tautness that seemed often to accompany each day – the sense of trying to outrun the avalanche.

Marsha and I talk to each other about what would seem to be next. There must be a next, since we cannot afford to live indefinitely without income. Marsha is pretty sure she is through with executive management. I can’t say I blame her.  She applied to be a barista at Starbucks.

Both of us have worked since we were young teens, at one job or another. Both of us rose eventually to jobs that were executive-type roles. We are grateful for the opportunities that came our way, and the things we were able to be involved in, but overall we are not enamored of what we have seen.

There seems to be something wrong. I have been continually flummoxed by the behavior of many of the people I’ve seen in executive positions, and Marsha shares my bewilderment.

As I think about it, I realize that I have a couple of expectations regarding executive managers that are probably completely unrealistic. One is that they behave as mature adults. The other is that they approach their work with a stewardship mentality, recognizing that the owners of the company (shareholders, perhaps) and the employees have a right to prudence &professionalism from an executive manager.

We keep seeing people put themselves on pedestals, with an apparent desire for power, prestige, position and pay that transcends what seems to us should be a more dignified humility that comes with the recognition of responsibility for people’s livelihoods.

I got to thinking about this attitude, and its origins. There is no question that the concept of stewardship is bound up with our Catholic heritage. The notion that our responsibility for what we do goes beyond ourselves  to all of human society is not uniquely Catholic or even Christian, but it certainly is a mainstay of Catholic teaching.

The desire for power over other people, it seems to me, is a sign of existential emptiness. As we were crafting our marriage seminar, we came to the startling conclusion that there are really only two ways to go: you can have a power and control relationship or you can have a love and affection one. I’ve met people with functional marriages that have a strong power and control component, but I’ve never seen a happy one. As a supervisor, I tried to treat power as a last resort. To me it almost always meant that I’d failed to win over a heart or mind, and while I was willing to use power, I never liked it.  There are people who really like having power over others. My belief is that those people should not operate in what should be leadership roles, as they are very inclined to substitute power for real leadership.

Prestige to me seems like a second-hand way of validating one’s worth. Here again it appears to me that someone who needs prestige is dealing with an existential emptiness. Prestige is fickle, like people, and is an illusory way to establish one’s sense of worth.

It seems odd in a way that my happiness quotient is as high or higher as I paint a cabinet for my son’s house to hide circuit breakers than it was managing a flight school or running a company. I liked those high-pressure jobs, and they certainly paid more money, but a simple task in service to another brings a quieter, more peaceful joy.

I wonder what will be next. Our pastor has our marriage seminar outline for his perusal. I look forward to seeing his comments.

Overall, I feel pretty content and happy. That could change anytime, but I am grateful for it right now.

Settled in Bremerton

Dear friends,

Sorry I sort of stopped the blogging. There wasn’t a lot of feedback, so I figured only a couple people were looking at it. Maybe I needed a few more people to scratch me behind the ears and say “good dog”.

Anyway, since I blogged, we landed safely in Bremerton. We did a little painting and unpacked our stuff. Considering we sold almost all of our furniture, and gave away a lot of our clothes, there was still a lot of stuff. But…when you get around to hanging pictures, you know you have made a home.

What is really cool is getting to spend time with Lauren (daughter in law) and Elena (3 and don’t you “no” it) and Madeleine (8 months and genuine all-terrain baby).  It is such a blessing to have this time. Adam and Lauren will probably leave in July or August, so we arrived just in time to have some quality grand-kid time. We wake up to the pitter-patter of little feet overhead, and just smile.  We have dinner together almost every night, and spend a little time playing with the kids. What a joy!

Being around in-laws has other advantages as well. We are able to spend time with Lauren’s folks. We all get along, which is really nice. Lauren’s dad is a very enthusiastic sailboat racer, and they sailed over on Friday in their Cal 40 sailboat to spend the night at our marina tied up next to Dulcinea. I begged a ride, and got not only to go from Bremerton to Seattle on the ferry, but to steer the sailboat back to Bremerton, which took about 4 hours. It was rainy, windy, cold, and glorious.

We got to see Max and George, too. Max is making his living as a crab fisherman, crewing on a 2-man boat. He came over for dinner with Stephanie (his intended), and at the end he had to arm wrestle me. I used to be able to hold my own, but Mr. crab-pot heaver beat me in about 1 second. Oh well. Went to visit George and went to the shooting range. I proposed a contest for beers, 5 shots each out of 3 guns, and he beat me 134-118. I’m pretty sure the days when I could count on besting my sons is long gone. They take great delight in beating me, too. I get the trash-talk for days afterwards. George sure can cook up a nice feast, though.  He and his roommate and Nicole (his intended) fed us dinner. A real adult dinner party at George’s apartment.  The food was good and the company better.

The Pacific Northwest (PNW) is stunningly beautiful when it is not raining. I was out tonight with Adam’s dog Charlemagne (C-mangle, or just Mangle) throwing tennis balls into Dye’s Inlet, looking at the glories of the Olympic Mountains. Florida has great sunsets, but PNW has extraordinary topography.

An examination of my mental and emotional states shows that I am no less happy to be living in a basement apartment than I was in a big house. Stuff is just stuff, after all. Once you have the basics, more doesn’t add much to happiness.

Marsha and I have had some quality togetherness. We haven’t really spent a day apart since she lost her job and I returned from Virginia where I was taking a class. What we have learned has only reinforced what we knew before: we really enjoy spending time with each other. I don’t think there has been more than a few minutes of friction in 4 months despite some very real stresses.  Our string will be broken tomorrow, since she flew to Melbourne, FL (of all places!) today for a consulting meeting.

The house is gone. That chapter is over, despite the fact that I got a notice in the mail yesterday that we were eligible for a loan modification.  In the end, we didn’t come out too bad. We lost our down payment, but we got about half of that back by selling the furniture, so no complaints. Marsha does not think it is likely that we will ever own a house again. I don’t much care one way or the other.  Pretty sure I’d be happy in a trailer or on a boat.

We visited with our Pastor, Fr. Lappe, and explained what we wanted to do from a marriage seminar standpoint. He was very supportive. We are nearly finished writing our outline and hope to begin maybe for Valentine’s Day. Our new parish is very vibrant and active, with a lot of ministries ongoing. We just happened to have something that fills a gap.

We have been walking to morning prayer, which is done communally in our parish. We finally were able to go all 10 blocks without dressing for arctic winter and clutching our mugs of hot tea, so some of the Florida is seeping away, and the blood is thickening up, so to speak. Just as well. We were walking past the high school, seeing kids with t-shirts and shorts walking to school, with us bundled up like Eskimos because it got down to 30.

There is a YMCA about 1.5 miles from the house, which also makes a nice walk. We can go to yoga classes almost every day, and we do. They even cut us a deal because we had no income. That was a new thing. The “sliding scale” works out in our favor these days.

Bremerton is a small town, without pretentions. There is a navy shipyard, which is the big employer. For us, almost everything is within walking distance. We only really need a car if we want to carry something home.  That makes our decision to reduce to one car a very reasonable one.

There is a little hole in the wall joint down by the boat that passes for a marina bar. They specialize in craft brews and Belgian-cut fries (whatever that means, which does not seem to be much). The only rub is that even at happy hour, the beers were $3 and the fries $4.25, which worked out to about $11 for what used to be a $6 visit to Crabby Bill’s. So we went to Costco and got a 24-pack for $18 (Costco craft beers, I kid you not – and pretty good, too). Now we’re back to $6 if we take the fries on the boat where we have the beer stashed, and the view is way better than Crabby Bill’s.

There is really not much else to tell. We miss our Florida friends, but we are joyfully renewing acquaintances here, and making new friends as well. Even in our little apartment, we still have a guest room, so we have two if you count the boat. As always, visitors welcome!  

Glens Ferry, Rain and Wind

West of Evanston, we drove through wind, rain and cold, and lots of lowered visibilities. At one point, I shouted “Look Dear!” Marsha was afraid I’d done something silly, but I was pointing out a break in the clouds that seemed to extend for miles. It was just outside Glen’s Ferry Idaho, and there was a camp ground at Three Islands.

We had despaired of camping because the weather was so crummy, so this looked like a welcome development. The campground was gorgeous, with lots of nice trees and a view of the Snake River. Most of the campsites were reserved for the coming weekend, but available to weekday campers like us.

We were able to set our tent up in dry weather, but by the time we got back from the grocery with beer and wood (and some other, less essential supplies) it was blowing and raining. I have a 10x10 tarp that I tied to the kayaks and held up on the other side with telescoping poles and guy lines. The rain immediately started to puddle in the middle and pull it down, so Marsha held it while I rigged a center pole with a hiking stick, camp box, and our soggy box of Duraflame logs. The wind was blowing rain in from the side, so I rigged another tarp on the side between the tree and the car.

This was cold wet work, and about the time I was finishing up, a woman from a nearby RV came over and asked if we would like some hot stew. We immediately accepted, gratefully. With the wind blowing like it was, it would have taken a long time to heat dinner on our camp stove.

The stew was yummy, and after we cleaned the dishes, we took them back. The lady (Cindy) was camping (if you call staying in an RV with a satellite dish camping) with her husband and a couple friends. I explained how we were traveling from Florida to Washington, camping along the way, and how while we don’t know what the future holds, we trust in God that all will work out, and how we thought Cindy was an angel, or nearly so.

The rain eventually stopped, so we up-ended a picnic table as a windbreak near the fire pit, and were able to watch the sunset with our backs toasty warm from the fire while the rest was a bit chilly. The sunset was glorious.

I was pretty tired of the mattress cooling off and sagging in the middle of the night, so this time I rigged an extension cord with the pump and left the pump in the tent. Apparently it was cold enough when I filled the mattress that it did not shrink much, as the mattress did not sag. It f igures. I had also prepared for rain in the morning by bringing our ponchos into the tent. All night long, we could hear the wind roaring through the trees.

Morning brought glorious views of sunrise, and no rain, but lots of wind. We teamed up to pack the tent, stepping on stuff so it would not blow away. Buttercup came with heated seats, and we would have not taken them if they were an option. We didn’t even know if they worked, but we found out today. What a luxury to be shivering and have your seat warmed in a friendly way!  Alas, it was windy on the Snake too, so we dispensed with the idea of wetting the kayaks. Happiness is coffee.

There are so many cool places to explore in Oregon, but our break from the rain soon ended, and it became clear from the forecasts that our initial plan to go to Bend was one that might need tire chains. It is a little weird to go from loading a 130 degree POD to contemplating tire chains in a few short weeks.

The sun is long gone, replaced by mist. Trucks are leaving contrails of spray and the wipers are getting a workout. This is PNW, for sure. 

 Here’s a picture of the sign near Deadman’s Pass. This area has a number of runaway truck exits that direct a truck up a hillside. All of these have tire tracks. Puts one in mind of “30,000 pounds of bananas”.

On our drive, we remarked to each other how much our faith has enabled connections with people who come into our lives. Sharing faith as a common bond helps us feel connected to people in a way that simply contemplating our common humanity does not.  This is a wonderful gift, and we are grateful.

We bonded with Jeff and Julie Brown 20 years ago working on a Marriage Encounter after-weekend experience. In a way, we grew up in ME together. Julie and Jeff watched our children while we went to Hawaii on our 10-anniversary honeymoon trip, and we have see their family grow and shared visits in Wichita, Kearney NE, Seattle, Salem OR, and Florida. We are now on our way to see J&J, and several of their 8 children will be home this weekend. We can’t wait. 

Flaming Gorge

We stopped at the visitors’ center in Utah. We explained that we were looking for campgrounds at Flaming Gorge. There were not many on the map. The nice lady explained that there were lots, but they were closed for the season.  The nice place was Dripping Springs, which she said we would really enjoy.

It was raining constantly. Hard, soft, in between. We looked hopefully for some break in the clouds, and saw what looked like a break in the direction we were going.

The roads twisted and wound, but nothing like the sphincter-clenching drop-offs of Colorado. After one missed turn, we finally arrived at the Dripping Springs campground. The place looked like Mordor from the LOTR movies. There had been a fire some time ago, and every tree had burned, leaving a charred carcass. The rolling hills of the campground were surrounded by the more forbidding sharp upslopes of the area, and they were enveloped in mist. The wind was 20-30. This did not look like fun to us, so we abandoned the campground with regret. Flaming Gorge is truly an extraordinary place, and must have been a delightful sight before the fire.

We popped for another motel, in Evanston WY. All of the great camping we envisioned in Utah and Idaho looks like we’d collide with early season storms. So we are likely to go west from Salt Lake City and see what northern Nevada has to offer.

So far, through rain, wind, missed turns, and disappointments, we have had about 10 minutes of being grumpy with each other. That seems remarkable to me. We flow really smoothly as a team, and setting up and breaking camp has become fairly easy. We marvel at how well we work together, and look forward to finding ways to help other couples enjoy the teamwork that makes this journey so much fun.

Rocky Mountains National Park

There is no way to describe the Rocky Mountains National Park to do it justice. The aspens are turning, gold, orange, occasional red. 


Driving though, we were still enjoying the care package from Brian and Gina.


 We camped just outside at Lake Granby. We had purchased sleeping bags (thanks, Greg!) at our favorite emporium. Camp was set up in time to enjoy grand vistas, etc. 


There was no water at camp, which meant no bathrooms, a fact that came to our awareness after our tent was set up and we found out the pit toilet at the boat ramp was 1/8 mile away. No worries, until the wee hours of the morning when nature demands the return of the fruit of the vine. It got down to about 32, and we had frost on our gear. We also had a nice cool walk at 3 am. But – the stars were fantastic, the Milky Way clearly visible.

We drank wine and ate rice and beans, cherry tomatoes and peppers from Gleasons, and read old dialogue books until dark by a roaring fire. I don’t want to part with the dialogue books. In an intensely personal way, they describe our journey from hallway sex to powerful love. (Hallway sex is part of a joke, not printable. Call for details).

Now we are headed for Flaming Gorge recreation area. 

Waffle House Chef Salad

From the Great Smokies we drove Tennessee and into Arkansas, having agreed to push on and get a motel room with shower!!!!, before we presented our stinky selves to our friends and relatives in Wichita.

Just outside Little Rock, we stopped. The best dinner option looked like the Waffle House. We had never been to a Waffle House. After perusing the menu with wonder, Marsha ordered a Chef Salad. The waitress said “What would you like on your Chef Salad?” This was a question she had not anticipated. So Marsha said, “well, what normally comes on a chef salad”. The waitress said “what’s that?”, so Marsha explained that it was usually ham and cheese and some vegetables, and hardboiled egg. Off she went, and soon we were presented with a most unusual chef salad.

There was lettuce, for sure. And ham bits. And torn up slices of American cheese. And chopped tomatoes, radishes, and carrots, onions, and hardboiled egg. And canned mushrooms. And dill pickle slices. And black olives. And jalepeno peppers.  Marsha was advised that she could not have blue cheese dressing. By this time, she was so taken with the salad she didn’t care. It was a wonder. It was wonderful. What a delightful piece of Americana. Our compliments to the chef.

ICT

Oklahoma is one of those states you drive through with some relief that you are not actually going to stay there. We got turned around in Tulsa when gypsy (our GPS navigator) chose some closed roads. I got frustrated and gripy. That was the first time I got pissed off since we started this trip. I drive erratically when mad. Marsha was uncomfortable. We had to stop. After a few minutes, we came up with a strategy and away we went, away from Oklahoma. Hurray!

Wichita means family and friends. Our age-old problem is: how do you see everyone you want to see? The answer is, you can’t, especially if your stay is only a day. Our first stop was at John Frisch’s house, where we were treated to the latest of a series of extraordinary photos that John takes at Chisholm Creek Park. Look for John’s pictures on flickr.com. We rotate friend visits in Wichita stops, and were able to see Joe and Kerry Seiwert and Tim and Mary Kay Chavez on Friday night and Saturday morning.

Staying with the (Mike) Frisches is always an adventure because the house is so full of action. We added ourselves to the fast-moving life of a house with two parents, six kids, two dogs, and a cat. We wondered if Plumbob would take a look at us and run away so we would not take him away, but Plum greeted us warmly when we showed up Friday night late. He did not disappear until we actually left, then he was nowhere to be seen.

Bill and Pat Bell were warm and welcoming . Pat took off Saturday morning for a lunch date with us, and we were able to catch up. Bill is working wonders in stained glass, and presented us with two beautiful windows that were intended for our Florida home but now will live in our new abode.

 During our Saturday lunch with Bill and Pat, we got a call from Denise Elder offering us a bed in Pittsburg KS. Mike and Denise were the very first couple to work with us on our Marriage Encounter talks. Marsha and I reminisced about how we fought on the way to their house because we were so uptight about being on time. We were abhorred by being 10 minutes late, and when we came into their house, they promptly put us to work washing dishes and folding the laundry that was all over the living room. We marveled that they could be so relaxed about appearances when people were coming to their house. It was a valuable lesson for us, one that we hold to this day. If you wait to have people over until your house is perfect, you will lose many opportunities to visit. And the kind of people who would be put off by a little mess you probably don’t want at your house anyway. A good life lesson for us.

Fr. Chuck Gallagher said that it is not the food, not the décor, not the clean perfection of a house that makes it welcoming, but the affection among the the members of the household. He is so right. Our favorite places to visit are often short on gourmet meals, fancy china or dust-free perfection. There is something about being welcomed into a happy family that has no earthy substitute. I envision heaven as a huge,  extended happy family.

Saturday evening was a cheerful crazy mix of Frisches, Hendersons, Weesners (Steve), and various friends of the above who wandered in and out. Mike cooked up a feast of kabobs and we ate and talked forever. Every time we visit Wichita, we feel the gravitational pull of our families. We wish we could be there more, or have them where we are.  

Sunday morning we arose early and headed to Salina for early Mass and brunch with Marsha’s brother  Brian and his wife Gina. They were very honoring and cooked a wonderful brunch. Brian helped with some house paperwork that we needed to get to the bank. We got to hear of the exploits of Bethany, Brian’s daughter, who is now 18 and very independently minded. Brian and Gina sent us off with a care package of grapes, meat and cheese, crackers and homemade cookies.

Most of Sunday was driving through Western Kansas (see my note about Oklahoma above) on our way to Boulder to visit Kevin Gleason and his wife Ilene. Kevin is my oldest friend, and we worked together as  apprentice janitors at St. Thomas Aquinas grade school. We had adventures together through high school and college, and nearly died together on Fall River reservoir when the Snipe we were sailing had a rudder attach failure and capsized.  Our dinner-and-breakfast visit was far too short, and after they loaded us up with newly harvested potatoes, tomatoes, and peppers from their garden, Kevin led us to the local Walmart where we bought some sleeping bags for the high country. As I write this, we are on the peak-to-peak scenic highway headed for Grand Lake on the western side of Rocky Mountain National Park.     

                                                                                           

DOPI Nick tries to sleep

DOPI Nick goes to bed

Smokemount campground at Smoky Mountains National Park is lovely. Lots of trees, babbling brook. No electricity or water at the sites. Believe it or not, it did not occur to me until Savannah that I could bring an extension cord and a power strip to camp and be electrified.  We could have brought a blender! Not at SMNP, though.

Happiness is setting up and breaking camp in dry weather. Even though I’ve done it plenty of times both ways with Scouts, breaking camp in the rain never loses its lack of appeal. We set up in dry sunshine at Smokemont. No power meant 600 strokes on the pump to get the bed inflated.

We had a campfire. We had loaded up with duraflame logs at Walmart. I was done with trying to get damp wood to burn using those wimpy little fire starters and fanning with the dustpan. Naturally, since we were prepared, it didn’t rain. I really like Walmart. Here’s my song:

            We don’t need no Super Kmart

            We don’t need no CVS

            Our Target ads are in the trashcan

            We’re shopping where the price is best

            Hey! DOPI! We shop where the price is best!

            All in all, its just another trip to the Wal.

We read snippets of Marsha’s great-grandmother’s Bible, and consigned pages to the fire. I’d forgotten that David tried to get Uriah to sleep with his wife to cover up the consequence of his dalliance. Uriah refused, saying if his buddies had to go without, he would too.  That’s when David sent him to the front and told his commander to ditch him. Ultimately, Uriah died because he refused to sleep with his wife when he was on leave.  Weird. David’s story is a reminder that a man should never discount his weaknesses as a source of trouble.

Speaking of sleeping with the wife, I learned some things on this outing. First is that when you are used to sleeping under a sheet with the house “cooled down” to 78, temps at 55 seem pretty darn cold. The mattress sagged. Marsha and I ended up in a valley in the middle, elbowing each other.  Further, I discovered that blankets on top do not help with cold seeping through to one’s back through the mattress.

So, in the middle of the night, we piled out of bed, and I gave the mattress another 60 pump strokes. Then I took one of the poly blankets and put in on the mattress.  Then the other blankets. Then we piled back in, shivering. Marsha soon discovered that I had used the big poly blanket for the bottom layer. The small one was not big enough to reach our feet. Now my back was warm, but my feet were cold. Marsha, as always a step ahead, had remembered her Thorlos, and her feet were warm.

Using the logic that if I try to ignore the problem, maybe it will go away, I lay awake for half hour with my feet staying quite cool. Finally I piled out again and got my Thorlos out of the car. Eventually, I actually got some sleep. Last night, we actually had our act together and got a decent night’s sleep.  How we appreciate the little things! Last night’s fire, we burned dialog books. We have a whole big container of them. These were from the conference at DeKalb where we went with Jeff and Julie. Some fun memories!

In between trying to get to sleep, we actually did drive, hike and kayak in SMNP. We stopped at Laurel Falls on our way up a trail.



We found this sign on the Appalacian trail:
Kayaking at Abrams creek involved a lot of dragging the boats over the shallow rocks to get to the 4 inches of water we need to comfortably (and successfully) paddle. It was pretty, though, and really remote, by our standards.


Overall assessment of SMNP: Rockies, Olympics, Cascades are prettier and offer more adventure. On our way up to Klingman’s Dome, we were passing people who were stopping to rest. I started telling them there was a world-famous tiki bar at the top, as a means of encouragement. This elicited some laughter. Once we got ahead, I started telling people on the way down to comment on how good the beer and fish tacos were. I got a lot of ribbing from people at the lookout who were expecting a tiki bar!

No water = no showers at SMNP.  Now we are a bit gamey. Marsha says motel or truck stop. We’ll probably drive until we get tired tonight and grab a room on our way to Wichita.  Hoh

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Bowling and Savannah

Just 2 nights ago we were bowling at Linda and Don’s place in Lake Ashton. This conjured happy memories of Crestview Bowl and getting loopy on vanilla extract when I was 15, which led further into a discussion of the relative merits of vanilla extract, mouthwash, Nyquil, and Jaegermeister.

Linda was pretty sure mouthwash was poison (wood alcohol), but Don noted he was aware of some military post exchanges where mouthwash was taken from the shelves because soldiers were drinking it.

My score was vanilla extract first, then Jaeger, then Nyquil, then mouthwash. Marsha noted that mouthwashes taste better than they used to. At any rate, cold sober we were hard pressed to bowl 100.

Saying our goodbyes, we headed for Ft McAllister SP in GA. Rain loomed. We got our tent set up before it got really rainy- nice! On the way in, we passed by a marina bar, Fish Tales, so we go on our bikes and headed for beer and fries. On the menu was Shrimp and Grits. “Not them fancy shrimp and grits with the fancy cream sauce, but the way my great grandmammy used to make them before the War of Northern Aggression’.

Fish Tales was delightful, and we began to fantasize about creating a restaurant in Bremerton with a tiki-bar Caribbean motif.  Sunlamps, artificial beach, etc. And GOOD FRIES PROPERLY COOKED.

Savannah has lots of history. Cotton, slave trade, etc. It was founded by a guy named Oglethorpe.  He had 4 rules: No attorneys, no Catholic services, no slavery, and no “rum or strong drink”. This worked for a while, then the Irish came. Today there is no slavery, but the St. Paddy’s Day parade is second only to NY. Schools let out, the trolleys don’t run, and the parade goes for 4-5 hours.

We had a lunch downtown (there are NO marina bars in Savannah) featuring  Shrimp and grits with savory gravy. It was good, darned good, and we might serve this to you if you show up at our door. 

 

The Crab shack on Tybee Island was the first marina bar ever that had no fries! Not a fryer on the place, everything steamed or boiled.  The beer was good, though. They had an Irish totem outside.

Another Tybee marina bar let us dunk the kayaks and peruse the marina. Lots of pelicans, a real bonus.

After our 4-for-4 record of going to bed early because it was raining, (now I know we have to have duraflame logs to start fires), we woke up to no rain. Now we’re off to the Smokies, campground TBD, probably no electricity or water, and sure as heck no wi-fi. see you on the other side.

What we'll miss about Florida

Before we moved here, people told us that Florida was all about hurricanes, bugs, gators and snakes.

After 3 years, we will miss:

Gorgeous sunsets (we'd drag chairs out into the alley. Neighbors thought we were weird. They have never lived in the Seattle area)

Being close to Linda and Don.

The terrific people we've met and become friends with. They are hard to leave.

Wildlife, especially birds, but also lizards & gators. Gators keep you alert when you walk around water, and you see more because you are looking

Pelicans, special mention. I'd love to be reincarnated as a pelican. They fly so gracefully 

Bicycling on the flat

Live Oak trees (I still don't know why they call them that) with Spanish Moss (neither Spanish nor moss, but there you have it)

Kayaking on streams under a canopy of trees

Snorkeling in warm fresh and saltwater

Marina bars everywhere, but especially Crabby Bill's

Having a pool

Sunshine almost every day

Driving the convertible top down all winter long

Being able to walk into 80-degree air conditioning and immediately feel cool

The Keys

St. Augustine

Beaches East and West coast

Living in a magnet location for visitors

An almost perfect Florida day is snorkeling somewhere, then lying on the beach, swimming, and hanging out at a marina bar sipping beer and watching the pelicans.

What I won't miss:

Biting insects

Oppressive heat that makes it miserable outdoors

All in all, I'd rate Florida as a terrific place to live. If kids and grandkids were here, I don't think we'd mind staying.

Tomorrow looks like our last day here. We'll undoubtedly take some sand with us.

Hanging out in Florida

Hi! Thanks for being with us in spirit.

Yesterday was separation day. Having grown weary of waiting for the bank to issue closing documents, we cleared everything out of the house that we were not leaving behind and packed it into Buttercup. We locked the doors one last time and gave the keys to the realtor.

By itself, this brought a flood of emotions. Relief in having some resolution that would end our stay in Florida (not that we don’t like FL, we do, but our minds are elsewhere). Anticipation in adventures to come. A bit of feeling adrift. As Marsha pointed out, we don’t have house keys anymore.

Linda and Don were kind enough to offer us a temporary home as we prepared to make our final launch. Since campsites are scare near Savannah during the weekend, we plan to stay in Lake Wales with them until Sunday.

Snorkeling down a river

While waiting, we headed to a place that was on our “wish we’d gone here list”. Manatee Springs is one of many Florida fresh-water springs, feeding into the famed Suwannee River.  Manatee is deep,  clear, beautiful, and has some fish and turtles to make a snorkeling trip interesting.  Before our swim, we launched the kayaks into the springs run and spent time in the river.  At the launch, I pulled what is now known in our family as the “John Frisch” maneuver. With one end of the boat on shore, I stepped in, almost sat down, and rolled over. Thank God for ziplock bags.

We kept hearing these big splashes, but we couldn’t see what made them. The water was clear, and we saw bass, sunfish, bluegill, catfish, carp, gar, turtles, and one alligator. Alas, there were no West Indian manatees in sight. We finally caught sight of the splasher. It was a silver fish between 1 and 2 feet long that was leaping about 6 feet horizontally and a foot up. We don’t know what it was.

Nearby Cedar Key is famous. We’re not sure why. It is a quaint little drinking town with a fishing problem. We tried to help out by diminishing the beer supply at a waterfront dive that had an outdoor peer for dining. The beer was good, but not the fries. Fries should be golden brown and crispy, not white and limp. Why is it that so few restaurants seem to understand this? Driving around, we found an establishment that offered live and frozen kayaks and also bait rental.  We did not rent any bait.

While camping at Manatee, we were able to test drive the gear. We learned some things. I am starting a new society call Dummies Organized to Promote Idiocy (DOPI). As the charter member, I felt obliged to do things like fail to tuck the tarp edges under the tent so water does not collect. I also was too lazy to put the cooler away in the car for the night. Naturally, it rained. DOPI me. Our foil dinners took forever to cook. We drank more beer while waiting, sitting under a tarp fastened to the car, living “the life”, basically bugspray covered semi-drunk campers waiting waiting waiting for the dinners to cook. Later,while trying to sleep, I heard a loud crash from the picnic table. Mini-bears had found our cooler. By the time I jacked myself out of bed and went out, a raccoon had gotten into a bag of frozen chili. DOPI me.

With things stowed in the car, I fell asleep only to be awakened by my bladder reminded me that beer is something one borrows temporarily. Fortunately, the rain had slackened by then.

Gear winners: the little broom and dustpan, the Eureka! Tent, the clothes line, the camp shower (a great handwashing station), and a silly little camp towel from sports authority that was wonderful in sopping out the tent from where I’d left the window open during the rain.  Sand was everywhere, and I learned that it splashes up the sides of everything when it rains hard.

From Manatee, we went to Fanning Springs (not great but another kayak opportunity).  Then we went to Ginnie Springs, a real find. There is a series of Springs, popular for cave diving. We snorkeled down the river, which we had never done before. Our shoes came with us tied to the float of the diver down flag we’d purchased at Walmart. The ranger at Manatee described  nearby Chiefland as a “squat, grubby, undistinguished little Florida town with a gas station and a Walmart, which is beneficial for us in equipping us to go into the wilds nearby”. We agree.

Next adventure stop – somewhere near Savannah. Stay tuned.

Hot Peppers

For those of you who love hot stuff, there is a wonderful store called Peppers of Key West on, of course, Key West. (on, in, who knows? Both maybe).

Anyway, you walk in and they have this tasting bar. The gal said "we have a range from mild to really hot" and I asked to start in the middle and work up to hot.

She was putting half a teaspoon in a little paper cup and I was pouring it on little round Tostitos. hot sauce can be almost a spiritual experience,and  I worked my way through Beer and Chili, Melinda's, Satan's Ghost, and several more to their very finest hot-hot sauce, "Widow".

By this time, the lady had stopped giving me the paper cups and just gave me the stuff on a spoon. The top of my head was sweating, and I was having a great time.

After 10 or so different sauces, my tummy told me it was time to stop. Marsha bought me a t-shirt with a dog on it shooting fire out its butt, the Key West Chili Dog.

The next morning I was that dog as I spent 15 minutes in the restroom at Sombrero beach noting that hot sauce warms twice, especially if you eat a lot of it. I want to make a sign for our bathroom that says "I'm on island time". Why fool with prune juice when you can make your own volcanic island with an application of hot pepper sauce?

Key West

The house has not closed. All our stuff is in a POD headed for Seattle except our camping gear, bikes and kayaks.

My sister Linda and her husband Don have a place in Lake Wales. We are staying there, sort of. We spent this last couple days in Key West, staying at the Fly Navy building courtesy of Don's service.

Our snorkeling trip went from site to site to site looking for one without numerous (really thick) moon jellyfish. Finally we just went in anyway. Dodging jellies makes for tense snorkeling. We were rewarded with a barracuda that swam just a few feet from Marsha.

A great snorkeling place turned out to be Sombrero beach on Marathon Key. There is a young coral reef off a small point. Free, with a nice beach. Better than the $40 commercial trip. And we found a new marina bar. Life is good.

Even if the house closes, we are planning a couple days camping at Manatee Springs. Leaving Florida reminds us of how much there is to do here.

Still in Florida

Thanks for checking our blog! We appreciate the encouragement of those who insisted (probably under the influence of strong drink) that our lives (or at least our Odyssey)  would somehow be interesting. That remains to be seen. For now, we love you and are still surrounded by boxes and moving stuff. We are also awaiting a closing date, which will determine start date for the odd-essay.

Nick and Marsha